Black person: This process, program, policy is racist.
White person: I'd like to think that what is happening and what they are doing is not intentional.
Translation: I am quite comfortable with the way things are. I'd like for you to believe and behave like it is unintentional too. The only change needed is your attitude adjustment.
Note: There is nothing sweet, cute, endearing, or lovable about racism, patriarchy, or any form of oppression.
Let me say that again: There is nothing sweet, cute, endearing, or lovable about racism, patriarchy, or any form of oppression.
The expectation that responses to any of the above should be "respectable," "politically correct," sweet, or palatable produces the unseen scars of emotional and psychological violence.
